Coloring hope in purple…

The doctor’s words resonated flat within the sparse conference room once they were spoken aloud:  “The results confirm ALZHEIMER’S.”  Pop was silent, holding my hand, staring off outside the window, and processing all we were rapidly being told.  “Probably stage 4, moving into stage 5 and definitely beyond moderate at this point.”  Alzheimer’s, this dreaded, debilitating disease we previously experienced, daily lived, and unfortunately understood too well with momma.  While not shocking in light of everything we’ve experienced these past 18 months, the immediate sting of this label is potent.

As we exited outside from this meeting, the color purple vibrantly surfaced in various ways–a poster of information, a sign of instructions, blossoming violets and phlox growing in the landscaped beds along the medical building.  A regal jewel-toned color, purple often signifies enlightenment, transformation, royalty, power, creativity, wisdom, dignity, devotion, grandeur, pride, mystery, and independence.  Purple is considered a rare occurrence in nature, symbolizing delicate, precious, and often sacred meanings (much like dad’s remaining memories and brain function).  Herbalists and horticulturalists believe lavender, orchid, lilac, and violet flowers along with plum, thistle, pomegranate, eggplant, and grapes increase imagination, calm confrontation, and re-energize the learning of new things.  How ironic is it the color purple also has come to symbolize hope and awareness for one of the longest family goodbyes in modern medical history?

Today, however, as Pop and I walked around the medical facility path from another appointment, these plastic beauties caught us off guard with their collective colors, fluttering leaves, and powerful messages written on petals gently swirling in the pre-rain breeze.  We stopped in awe to read the names, sentiments, and messages of hope, silently wondering where and how hope will emerge in the stark reality of Alzheimer’s disease.

Thankfully, even in our darkest moments, someone gratefully steps in to turn on the lights for us; today, ironically, it was daddy himself.  He announced in that particular moment he wanted to plant a purple garden.  So, yes, we’re planting a purple garden together in the next week…a place where nature, our existing imagination, and precious memories can grow even as they dim inside dad’s mind.  Somehow, daddy finds hope in growing something purple and knowing our time is limited, so we need not waste it.  Somehow, daddy finds hope in taking life day-by-day and being grateful for the little things, like a purple garden in our yard.  Somehow, daddy finds hope in talking, reflecting, sharing, and laughing as daily priorities.  And somehow, daddy finds hope in profoundly reminding me, “A secret in life is letting every situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be.  Take what you’re handed with grace and dignity and move on; let’s just make the best of this thing.” Consider it done, daddy…and here’s to coloring our hope in a glorious garden of purple.

11 responses to “Coloring hope in purple…

  1. Thank you all so very much for the kind words, thoughts, prayers, and virtual hugs wrapped in comfort! As expected, we continue to push onward, treasure each day, and dig deep within the well of grace for strength, wisdom, and peace…much love, dear ones, Beth and family

  2. SARAH VAN AMBURGH

    “A secret in life is letting every situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be.” I am copying Sam’s lovely words and putting them on my mirror at home to remind me of his bravery, as well as yours, Michael’s, Becky’s and the entire family. I love you all!

  3. Betty and I lived with my dear mother during her final year with Alzheimer’s, and I now enjoy precious memories when I visit Janelle at the same home and see the purple irises that my mother planted there. Charline and I, together with our families, feel close in spirit to you, Sam, Michael, and family. We pray that God’s grace continues to give you the guidance and strength you need.

  4. Love to you all. We are with you in spirit and wish we could help with the purple garden. Miss you.

  5. Your eloquent words reveal the truest God inspired heart I have ever been privileged to know. You and Michael are an inspiration to all who know you!
    God bless you on this difficult journey.
    Love,
    Iris

  6. Your entire family is in my prayers. You are a wonderful daughter. Enjoy the purple planting days.

  7. Praying for you, Beth, and your precious Dad. He took such living care of your Mom and I know his girls will do the same for him! Praying that God will give you wisdom and strength as you face huge choices and decisions. ❤️🙏🏽You my friend!!

  8. Tammie Thompson

    Sending you hugs and prayers. May the color of purple shine through and put JOY and PEACE in your hearts.

  9. Prayers for you all as you go through theses waters. We have a sweet couple at church whose wife is in these waters right now. We (our SS class) are very close knit group! We always try to include her in our ladies get together. Sometimes we feel so helpless when we try to communicate with her, but I know she she enjoys being with us! She can feel the love .

  10. Thinking of Pop, you, Beck, and the rest of the family upon hearing this news. Prayers and love to all!! 💜💜💜

  11. Lynda Layman Eskridge

    I will always think of Sam as I see Purple flowers….Violets, Iris, Pansey’s and Violas. ‘Take what you can with grace and dignity’. Our hearts and thoughts will be with you through this journey. Lynda Eskridge

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